Do you feel like you’re not living life on your terms?
Maybe you find yourself in one or more of the following situations:
Do you find yourself pleasing others more than yourself?
Maybe this is super subtle for you, maybe you don’t do it all the time… but inherently you do find yourself saying “yeah, sure” to requests without checking within or “I don’t mind” when someone asks you want
This sounds really subtle but this is what is sinister about it – as you’re not ever consciously not choosing heart’s desires.
And your subconscious is silently watching you putting others needs before you, which means you say to yourself you’re not important.
Do you find yourself confused with what it is you really want?
When you’re confused it means you’ve filled yourself with other people’s ideas, dreams and desires… So when you think about what you want, you’re kind of full with a mix of stuff – some that’s yours, some that’s other peoples… so
Do you long for something more meaningful in your life – career, relationship, dog, somewhere more inspiring to live?
This means that, right now you’re life is not meaningful to you – as otherwise you wouldn’t be looking and longing for a life that is full of meaning.
As meaning is connected to our own sense of deep values and purpose, so we all attach a different meaning to the same thing. So if you are searching for more meaningful – it means that you right now, it’s full of other people’s ideas of what’s meaningful.
I know how this feels as I personally have had to deal with these issues, I went for “success” in life – you know the big city job, the good promotions, the nice holidays, lovely apartment etc and yet it didn’t feel meaningful to me. In fact, I was full of other people’s ideas, including magazines 😉 of what success should look like.
And the thing is, success is personal.
So I started on a journey a few years back to find my life purpose and I from that, I set up my own business & quit the corporate job. Yay, I should have been happy. But yet I found myself still going into people pleasing behaviours and making a success for others and yet I felt empty.
It was then that I started to do womb work – and I finally worked out that my centre of creativity, the deepest part of me, was full of other people’s energies, ideas and projects.
So I did a lot of clearing work and now I:
- know what i want
- know what isn’t working for me
- I’m not scared to stand up for me anymore
So I made some changes and now I feel happier, more centred and more me!
I want you to know that as a woman – you are sacred – and in ancient times you were revered and you were honoured. Think about it for a moment, you are the centre that brings life onto the earth. Spirit enters into matter and this happens inside of you, it is an incredible power, when you connect to it.
Really, this is a remembering that you are sacred.
Because when you know that, when you know how important you truly are… and that you
have a purpose and mission here down on earth, then no one is going to stop you.
Here are three steps to start implementing this:
- Embody who you truly are
Begin with a connection to your deepest self, find time to spend connecting deeply to who you are. (if you missed my recent training on this with a connection meditation and you’d love to have it – HIT REPLY and I’ll send it over)
When you connect… ask and feel:
– is it all you?
– what needs clearing out
– what needs putting back in
- Listen to yourself
– are you listening within?
– start listening to your needs, desires, issues
– Begin asking questions for the simple stuff to start with – like what would you feel like for dinner, not “what should I have?”
- Talk to yourself as a lover, not a hater
– remember that it’s a journey of self-love – self-love is really to be there for you – all parts of you and not to reject any parts. all the yucky mean parts too. You are a full tapestry of the human experience and that’s ok!
– are you giving yourself permission to be who you really want to be?
So enjoy a practice to connect to that deeper part of you, listen in, speak nicely, love deeply and give your permission to live life on your terms!